Apologies 101

Alright...
So never be a doormat,
that's obvious...
That being said,
don't be a jerk.
Turns out,
sometimes we are jerks.
And we know it.
You know it.
Yeah you do.
Either you get really stressed and snap,
or you're just REALLY REALLY sick of someone.
It just happens.
You yell at them,
or say something so horribly harsh because they aren't grasping that you just want to be left alone.
And then you see it.
The ABSOLUTE hurt that you've caused them.
That was you.
All you.
So it makes sense that the only person who can make it better,
is you.
This is tricky because in some situations with some people,
you need to just let it be for a little while,
then apologize.
Others want an immediate apology.
The problem with an immediate apology is that
A) it's probably not sincere because you're most likely still feeling anger.
B) If you're still angry from the original argument, it's only going to keep bothering you.
However,
if you wait too long,
they may just forget you,
cut you out,
and no longer give a shit about what you have to say.
Pride does bad things for relationships.
So if you did something wrong,
or said something harsh,
give it a day.
Go calm down and brush it off.
Then realize you have to own up to what may have just been your own stress level overflowing,
and they were the unfortunate target.
(They were most likely the target because you feel comfortable enough around them to lose your composure, and know they'll still love/care about you)
So take it easy and step back.
Let the situation die down,
but know you gotta apologize.
And also know that you have to mean your apology.
Everyone can recognize a fake one.
Good luck line.
Keep it in perspective and watch yo temper;)
Happy to help,
Bee.

Love somebody. Or yourself.

I apologize for my absence.
School and work take most of my time...
so does living.
BUT
the good thing about that,
is that now I have plenty to say:]
Let's see.
I think we should talk about dating...
No objections?
Okay good [haha you can't object even if you want to]
Dating is fun.
No really,
hear me out.
A lot of people hate it because it's awkward
and new
and such,
but really,
it's just meeting new people
with the potential of finding love!
Isn't that exciting!?
I know you think that's exciting.
So single is okay.
Yeah?
Yeah!!
You can flirt with whoever you want,
go wherever you want,
no restrictions.
This is your ticket to freedom and happiness!
And through that you'll find MORE happiness when you meet your love!
But it takes time,
we know this.
And being okay with being you is most important. [again, we know this]
Another thing,
yes,
you will date losers.
There's a lot of them out there,
and that's why we date,
to find the best non-loser available.
So don't get discouraged.
Until then,
date around.
Enjoy it.
You only get to do it for so long.
Marriage is forever [or should be thought as such]
so have fun not being married,
and don't forget to love yourself.
Remember,
if you can't love yourself,
how will anyone else?
Right?
;)
Keep in it in perspective line.
Got your back.
<3 Bee.