The truth: A poetic tribute to the abused

The Whole Truth

I want you to know,

that things have changed.

And I want you to know,

I feel your pain.

There are things in this world,

We can’t explain.

So I want you to know,

I won’t play this game.

I count on one hand,

The victims you’ve claimed.

But numbers aren’t numbers,

Numbers have names.

Number two died,

And all of us cried.

And one, three and four,

Well, we lied.

You knew that with pain,

that we would be tame.

But you missed just one,

And this one is done.

But how can it be?

How did you miss me?

You never did bet,

That I would run free.

I’m out of your grasp,

Like one, three and four,

And two we will mourn,

forever and more.

What Are You Searching For?

Sorry it's been so long,
School has gotten crazy.
Let's do a quick check in.
How are you?
How are your relationships?
Are they going in the direction you want them to go?
If they are,
Great!
If not,
let's talk about it.
Why is it that sometimes we fall for someone who doesn't seem to return our feelings?
Well,
there are a few answers to that.
It also depends on the kind of person you are.
Are you a "fixer?"
Are you that person who picks someone who has issues because you have a problem solving complex?
It's okay if you are.
We all have our thing.
Or maybe you're the person who just wants someone,
anyone,
to love them.
Are you that person?
The problem with being that person,
is that you might often choose someone who is not a good person for you.
The good thing with this is that you're not overly picky...
I guess that can be seen as a good thing.
We all have our place.
Everyone's gotta be something.
But what if you're the person who chooses someone who is unavailable to you
simply because you like the thrill of the chase?
You might honestly not even really like them,
they've simply sparked your interest only because you can't have them.
Then again,
what if you truly care about them?
This type of person is often very competitive.
They're very driven.
They're talkers.
They're doers.
They get what they want.
And if they don't get what they want,
they will either pursue harder (hence the chasing method)
or they will walk away as if it doesn't even phase them.
This person is overly proud.
They're often quite arrogant.
Now wait a second,
I'm not just bashing on anyone.
I can say these things because I'm this type of person.
I almost always want what I can't have.
I'm not satisfied with mediocrity.
Best is best.
The problem with being this person,
is that you're NEVER SATISFIED.
So you got what you want.
Now what?
Onto the next.
That's what.
Constantly chasing the new shiny object on the horizon.
If you're identifying with this category of person,
perhaps we should work on it.
This is not a good way to live your life.
You can't always be looking for something/someone new.
You have to learn to be happy with what you have.
I'm not saying settle for anything less than you deserve.
I'm saying once you've found it,
stick with it.
Keep it.
Don't let it go.
You're all smart Line.
Make good decisions
and do what's best for you
and your heart.
Love when you have the opportunity to love.
As always,
I got your back.
Love you all.
Bee.

Confusion Answered.

Okay.
I know I've been completely infrequent with my posts,
and I apologize for that.
BUT
The reason for this is because
I've been out there learning and making mistakes,
in order to give you the feedback you like :]
I'm about to pour my heart out on this one,
so stay with me.
I'm no longer confused about how to act or react.
I have a solid answer.
Which is exactly what I wanted...
Now, was the substance of the answer I got
exactly what I wanted?
Well,
at first I didn't think it was.
At first,
I was kinda upset about it.
Upset that he didn't like me enough to become something more.
BUT
after thinking about it,
that what I always want.
I have never been the girl who wanted a boyfriend,
I've never wanted to be stuck with one person,
so why did I confuse myself this time?
Well,
to be honest
it's probably because I genuinely liked him.
But that's beyond the point.
I think the reason I was prepared to commit so quickly
was because all of my friends told me I was supposed to.
No really,
anyone that knows me,
knows I'm not the relationship girl.
I'm a flirt.
I like to have fun.
Commitment scares me.
I lost track of who I was for a few weeks.
There's the key words there:
"few weeks."
I had only known this guy for like 20 days.
That is an outrageous amount of time for me to:
meet boy.
fall for boy.
date boy.
want to COMMIT to boy.
20 days!
Wow. wow. wow.
That is just not like me at all.
And now I remember that.
Yeah,
it still hurts a little to know I won't see him again,
but most likely it's for the best.
Maybe in a few years
we'll both be the single ones in our groups of friends
and we'll meet again.
Maybe we'll be more grown up
and ready for relationships.
Maybe I'll never see him again...
But one thing is for sure,
I learned from it
and it was fun while it lasted,
because we were a pretty good match.
Keep your smile and your guard up line,
both will get you where you want to be.
Happy to help.
Bee <3

New Situations, New Reactions.

You know what really blows?
Being unsure.
It's definitely in my top 5 least favorite things...
oh yeah...
it's right up there with snakes and ignorant people.
And why is being unsure SOOO frustrating?
BECAUSE YOU CAN'T PREDICT ANYTHING.
Maybe it's just me.
Maybe I'm the only person who mentally shrinks everyone I meet,
and during that time of analyzing is where I determine
how to behave around said person.
Extrovert? Introvert. Arrogant? Humble.
It's all about give and take...
but it's REALLY hard to have that "give and take" situation flow smoothly when you don't know what the other person is thinking.
This is the first time in my life I've run into this problem.
I'm usually very good at reading people.
It's one of my best qualities...
or it WAS.
Recently I've met someone who is absolutely impossible to read.
No wait.
That's not true.
I can read them,
but I'm still entirely unsure of how to act around them because
What
if
I'm
WRONG?
Why now?
Why this sudden confusion?
Well I couldn't really tell you.
I think it has something to do with the fact that I may like them.
Him.
Well shoot.
This is inconvenient.
Soon as I find a solution to this "unsure issue"
I'll let you know.
So far, all I've got it this:
Don't over analyze the situation.
Stop trying to read them in order to react, and be yourself...
because if you're not yourself
they'll either like you for the wrong reasons,
or dislike you for the wrong reasons.
No matter what, nothing is ever permanent.
If you say something stupid to a person you're interested in,
or if you separate,
don't stress.
Be patient.
No action can't be changed in some way.
Don't over analyze. (Yes, I know)
Take every situation as it comes and don't worry about the next step.
Live now.
Not later.
If they don't like you it's their loss.
You're fantastic.
And only the person who recognizes that
deserves you.
Well Line,
good luck.
I need it too.
I'm in uncharted territory right now.
I kinda like it.
Stay tuned.
Happy to help,
Bee.

Apologies 101

Alright...
So never be a doormat,
that's obvious...
That being said,
don't be a jerk.
Turns out,
sometimes we are jerks.
And we know it.
You know it.
Yeah you do.
Either you get really stressed and snap,
or you're just REALLY REALLY sick of someone.
It just happens.
You yell at them,
or say something so horribly harsh because they aren't grasping that you just want to be left alone.
And then you see it.
The ABSOLUTE hurt that you've caused them.
That was you.
All you.
So it makes sense that the only person who can make it better,
is you.
This is tricky because in some situations with some people,
you need to just let it be for a little while,
then apologize.
Others want an immediate apology.
The problem with an immediate apology is that
A) it's probably not sincere because you're most likely still feeling anger.
B) If you're still angry from the original argument, it's only going to keep bothering you.
However,
if you wait too long,
they may just forget you,
cut you out,
and no longer give a shit about what you have to say.
Pride does bad things for relationships.
So if you did something wrong,
or said something harsh,
give it a day.
Go calm down and brush it off.
Then realize you have to own up to what may have just been your own stress level overflowing,
and they were the unfortunate target.
(They were most likely the target because you feel comfortable enough around them to lose your composure, and know they'll still love/care about you)
So take it easy and step back.
Let the situation die down,
but know you gotta apologize.
And also know that you have to mean your apology.
Everyone can recognize a fake one.
Good luck line.
Keep it in perspective and watch yo temper;)
Happy to help,
Bee.

Love somebody. Or yourself.

I apologize for my absence.
School and work take most of my time...
so does living.
BUT
the good thing about that,
is that now I have plenty to say:]
Let's see.
I think we should talk about dating...
No objections?
Okay good [haha you can't object even if you want to]
Dating is fun.
No really,
hear me out.
A lot of people hate it because it's awkward
and new
and such,
but really,
it's just meeting new people
with the potential of finding love!
Isn't that exciting!?
I know you think that's exciting.
So single is okay.
Yeah?
Yeah!!
You can flirt with whoever you want,
go wherever you want,
no restrictions.
This is your ticket to freedom and happiness!
And through that you'll find MORE happiness when you meet your love!
But it takes time,
we know this.
And being okay with being you is most important. [again, we know this]
Another thing,
yes,
you will date losers.
There's a lot of them out there,
and that's why we date,
to find the best non-loser available.
So don't get discouraged.
Until then,
date around.
Enjoy it.
You only get to do it for so long.
Marriage is forever [or should be thought as such]
so have fun not being married,
and don't forget to love yourself.
Remember,
if you can't love yourself,
how will anyone else?
Right?
;)
Keep in it in perspective line.
Got your back.
<3 Bee.

One Night Stands.

98 percent of the time that's all they are.
ONE.
NIGHT.
Ouch.
That hurts a lot doesn't it?
I know, it does.
Especially when you're the one hoping that maybe this means they like you as much as you like them.
They don't.
Especially if there's alcohol involved.
If they can't make a move when they're sober,
it's because they don't want the responsibility of actually making a relationship.
They're probably attracted to you,
but they don't genuinely care about you.
If they truly cared about you
they would make sure you knew it.
They'd have the guts to treat you well when they're sober in the daytime.
Let's be honest,
they're probably a really insecure person. [That's where the alcohol comes into play]
Alcohol is a big COP OUT btw.
It blows cuz you like them,
and thought that maybe they'd finally realize that you rock
and should be together...
But if they actually realized that,
you'd know it at 3:00 PM on any Wednesday,
under the influence of nothing.
When they hook up with you at night
and don't act the same in the morning,
it time to move on.
Get outta there,
and don't look back.
This is something you really have to be strong on.
Do NOT let it turn into a habit.
It was a mistake,
and it can always be that ONE mistake,
but if it happens again you can only blame yourself.
Don't let them fool you.
Don't be their booty call,
it'll only make you feel bad about yourself.
You deserve someone who will treat you well.
Don't worry,
most people have been here,
you're not alone.
Just recognize that you are better than this.
You don't want someone that insecure and immature anyway.
Lots of love to you Line,
just keepin' it in perspective.
As always, happy to help.
Bee

Math Equations and Exes.

So...
The last post ended badly...
I ruptured my eardrum on the plane...
It hurt.
Real bad.
But anyway I'm okay now
and on medication and stuff.
Back to the relationship advice stuff.
Let's go over Ex advice,
since almost everyone has one.

First off:
If you and your significant other just split up, I'm sorry because it hurts.

Now:
I know it may be hard, but you have to cut off connection with them.
Yes, you can "still be friends", but not right now.
When you've just separated from someone,
maintaining contact will only make the situation worse for you both.
Don't drag it out.
Later on you can be friends,
right now you're exes.
Getting over someone you loved takes time.
There's an equation that will give you a rough estimate of how much time it will take you to get over them.
Basically it's like this:
X/2= :)

AKA The time you were dating them, divided by two, will give you the amount of time it will take you to be over them, at the greatest.

So say I date someone for 5 months, then we break up. It will take me 2.5 months AT MOST to be over them. Usually you're over them before that time.

BUT, the only way to get over them, is to not be around them or talk to them.
Your heart needs time to heal
and your brain needs to remember how to be without them again.
Erase them from your phone.
That way you're not tempted to call or text them.
Unless they did something terrible, erasing them from your Facebook is unnecessary because it can cause drama.
However if they cheated on you or did something bad,
erase away!
However,
You don't want to constantly look at their page,
so if you don't want to erase them,
then hide them from your news feed.
That way when they put up a picture with a new person,
you don't go stalk their page. [Note: Avoid looking at their page. Facebook is the NUMBER 1 cause of break-ups in America. It makes people jump to conclusions]
If they contact you and it was a mutual or a clean break-up,
You can politely say you both need space and time away from each other.
Tell them you will contact them when you're ready to be friends again.
If they contact you begging for you back after they cheated on you,
ignore them.
Block them.
Once a cheater,
always a cheater.
You gotta protect yourself line.
Keepin' it in perspective.
Happy to help:]
Bee

Relationships: For All The Right Reasons.

Okay.
So you want a boyfriend/girlfriend?
I'll help you do this,
but first I need to ask you a legit question...
Why?
Why do you want a significant other?
Is it so they can complete you?
So you can have someone to lean on?
So you can stop playing Frisbee all by yourself? [If this is your reason, get a dog.]
Seriously though,
you have to ask yourself why you think you need someone else?
You've gotta learn to be happy by yourself,
because if your happiness relies on someone else,
what happens when that someone is gone?
Nothing lasts forever.
You've gotta go into every relationship knowing that.
If you're considering becoming someone else's "significant other",
I hope it's for the right reasons.
Reasons like:
They care for you over everyone.
They have your best interest at heart.
They like that when you're driving together you sing like a tone deaf loser. [Okay, they may not exactly "like" this, but they can tolerate it and laugh with you about it]
They make you laugh.
They get you.
You WANT to, but don't NEED to.
Those are reasons for being in a relationship,
not just to have someone to hang out with when you're lonely.
Do this for me:
Go do something all by yourself,
once a week.
Pretty soon you'll be able to appreciate yourself.
Because if you never learn to love you,
how are others going to?
Just keeping it in perspective.
Happy to help.

Bee.

Day 2, Slashing Tires and Relationship Advice.

Wellll.
Nothing cool happened today.
So, I'm gonna default with some more tips in Bee's Guide to Not Sucking at Life.
Let's pick a topic.
It has to be a good one.
Interesting and relevent...
Let's talk about relationships.
Not the one you have with your dog or Mom.
The one with your boyfriend/girlfriend/wanna be significant other.
I have a few friends who are going through a tough time because they're into someone who doesn't return the feelings.
This totally blows obviously, but sometimes you gotta realize that
they're just not into you.
And when they're not into you,
don't bother.
You can't force someone to like you and definitely not to love you.
And honestly, you shouldn't want to.
You want someone who thinks you are the best person they've ever met.
The someone who will bring you orange juice when you're sick
and not make fun of you for liking that stupid tv show. [alright, they'll tease a little, but just cuz they like having fun with you]
And if you happen to find this someone and it turns out they decide they're looking for a different someone you can do 1 of 2 things.
Be all upset and angry about it, slash their tires, spread rumors about their stamina and std records and hate them.
OR
Recognize that it just wasn't meant to be and keep looking.
This is hard to do. [mostly because #1 sounds so appealing]
Another thing to think about is that sometimes it's no one's fault.
Sometimes it's just not working.
Sometimes it's you.
Then again sometimes it's all they're fault and they really are a jerk.
And you know, it's ok to feel this way.
Especially if it makes it easier for you to get over them. [usually it does]
BUT make sure not to be a jerk to someone who doesn't deserve it.
One more thing.
If you keep running into the same problem with every person you date,
you should probably take a look at yourself,
because maybe it's you.
Just keepin it in perpective Line.
Got your back.

Happy to help,

Bee