Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Can I Have Yo Numba?

Alright Line,
You asked and you shall receive :)
Today's topic is going to be:
How to get someone's number,
without being creepy, vulgar or drunk (often a combination of the first two).


Tip number 1:Be confident. 


I know, this sounds simple, but really. It works.
I know,
it's much easier said than done.
Yeah, it's near impossible to walk up to a girl/guy
without having at least a little bit of fear (if not a LOT) of being rejected.
But,
luckily the object of your affection doesn't have X-Ray vision.
They can't see that your heart is beating at a million miles per hour.
So,
with this in mind...
Just fake it.
Don't let them know that you want to run away because you're completely intimidated by them.
Just be confident,
and know that you're worth just as much as they are.


Tip number 2: Confident doesn't mean arrogant. 

You can approach someone with a smile and strike up a conversation
without starting off with:
"Well today is your lucky day, because today is the day I'm going to talk to YOU."
Gross.
Don't be that person.


Tip number 3: Be interesting.

It's much easier to start and maintain a conversation with someone
if you actually have something intelligent to say.
No.
Don't recite the theory of relativity. (Okay, some might consider it interesting.)
But unless you're trying to impress a physics major (and even then, I wouldn't start with this)
It's not a relevant topic.
And you will seem weird.
Very weird.


Tip number 4: Be conveniently in the same area as them.

But not in a creepy way.
Hopefully, you have a class with this person or are around them somehow.
If you're stalking someone,
stop reading now and go to therapy.
Seriously.
Watching someone through their window is only acceptable in movies.
Sometimes.


Tip number 5: Find common ground.

If you can share something with this person,
it will make you two closer,
regardless of what it is you share.
You both love Blink 182?
Perfect.
How do you know you both love Blink 182?

Scenario 1-
They walk in to class with headphones on blasting "Girl At The Rock Show."
You notice.
Glance at them and smile.
Odds are they'll smile back.
When they take their headphones out,
say something along the lines of:
 "Great song."
They'll respond.
Bam. Conversation started.

 Scenario 2-
You're behind the cutie in line at Starbucks and they order a double tall vanilla latte with soy.
What a coincidence,
that's been your favorite drink since,
oh, I don't know,
5 seconds ago?
I'm not saying lie.
I'm only suggesting that perhaps you try this new drink and find yourself a fan of it.
Back to the situation.
You order the same thing.
When you're both standing by the counter waiting for your order,
make a comment such as:
"perfect choice of drink," and smile.
In case you didn't catch on,
complimenting works,
as long as it's genuine. (a little contradictory to changing your drink choice based upon someone else, I know. But hey, you gotta do what you gotta do.)


Finally,
once you've started your conversation with this person,
and established mutual ground,
go in for the goal.
Get.
Their.
Numbaa.

The best way to ask for it,
is to be casual.
It's not a big deal.
"hey, we should hang out sometime"
"hey, do you want to study for the next test together?"
"Hey we should totally go get coffee sometime."
They will respond.
If they say no,
they are a jerk or unavailable.
In this case,
just let it go.
You'll find someone better.
But,
if they say yes,
your response will be a little something like this:
"Awesome, what's your number?"
Just.
Like.
That.

Good luck Line.
Everyone runs the risk of being rejected.
But if you never try,
you'll never succeed.
Got your back :]
Bee

Sunday, May 8, 2011

What Are You Searching For?

Sorry it's been so long,
School has gotten crazy.
Let's do a quick check in.
How are you?
How are your relationships?
Are they going in the direction you want them to go?
If they are,
Great!
If not,
let's talk about it.
Why is it that sometimes we fall for someone who doesn't seem to return our feelings?
Well,
there are a few answers to that.
It also depends on the kind of person you are.
Are you a "fixer?"
Are you that person who picks someone who has issues because you have a problem solving complex?
It's okay if you are.
We all have our thing.
Or maybe you're the person who just wants someone,
anyone,
to love them.
Are you that person?
The problem with being that person,
is that you might often choose someone who is not a good person for you.
The good thing with this is that you're not overly picky...
I guess that can be seen as a good thing.
We all have our place.
Everyone's gotta be something.
But what if you're the person who chooses someone who is unavailable to you
simply because you like the thrill of the chase?
You might honestly not even really like them,
they've simply sparked your interest only because you can't have them.
Then again,
what if you truly care about them?
This type of person is often very competitive.
They're very driven.
They're talkers.
They're doers.
They get what they want.
And if they don't get what they want,
they will either pursue harder (hence the chasing method)
or they will walk away as if it doesn't even phase them.
This person is overly proud.
They're often quite arrogant.
Now wait a second,
I'm not just bashing on anyone.
I can say these things because I'm this type of person.
I almost always want what I can't have.
I'm not satisfied with mediocrity.
Best is best.
The problem with being this person,
is that you're NEVER SATISFIED.
So you got what you want.
Now what?
Onto the next.
That's what.
Constantly chasing the new shiny object on the horizon.
If you're identifying with this category of person,
perhaps we should work on it.
This is not a good way to live your life.
You can't always be looking for something/someone new.
You have to learn to be happy with what you have.
I'm not saying settle for anything less than you deserve.
I'm saying once you've found it,
stick with it.
Keep it.
Don't let it go.
You're all smart Line.
Make good decisions
and do what's best for you
and your heart.
Love when you have the opportunity to love.
As always,
I got your back.
Love you all.
Bee.