New Situations, New Reactions.

You know what really blows?
Being unsure.
It's definitely in my top 5 least favorite things...
oh yeah...
it's right up there with snakes and ignorant people.
And why is being unsure SOOO frustrating?
BECAUSE YOU CAN'T PREDICT ANYTHING.
Maybe it's just me.
Maybe I'm the only person who mentally shrinks everyone I meet,
and during that time of analyzing is where I determine
how to behave around said person.
Extrovert? Introvert. Arrogant? Humble.
It's all about give and take...
but it's REALLY hard to have that "give and take" situation flow smoothly when you don't know what the other person is thinking.
This is the first time in my life I've run into this problem.
I'm usually very good at reading people.
It's one of my best qualities...
or it WAS.
Recently I've met someone who is absolutely impossible to read.
No wait.
That's not true.
I can read them,
but I'm still entirely unsure of how to act around them because
What
if
I'm
WRONG?
Why now?
Why this sudden confusion?
Well I couldn't really tell you.
I think it has something to do with the fact that I may like them.
Him.
Well shoot.
This is inconvenient.
Soon as I find a solution to this "unsure issue"
I'll let you know.
So far, all I've got it this:
Don't over analyze the situation.
Stop trying to read them in order to react, and be yourself...
because if you're not yourself
they'll either like you for the wrong reasons,
or dislike you for the wrong reasons.
No matter what, nothing is ever permanent.
If you say something stupid to a person you're interested in,
or if you separate,
don't stress.
Be patient.
No action can't be changed in some way.
Don't over analyze. (Yes, I know)
Take every situation as it comes and don't worry about the next step.
Live now.
Not later.
If they don't like you it's their loss.
You're fantastic.
And only the person who recognizes that
deserves you.
Well Line,
good luck.
I need it too.
I'm in uncharted territory right now.
I kinda like it.
Stay tuned.
Happy to help,
Bee.

Day 2, Slashing Tires and Relationship Advice.

Wellll.
Nothing cool happened today.
So, I'm gonna default with some more tips in Bee's Guide to Not Sucking at Life.
Let's pick a topic.
It has to be a good one.
Interesting and relevent...
Let's talk about relationships.
Not the one you have with your dog or Mom.
The one with your boyfriend/girlfriend/wanna be significant other.
I have a few friends who are going through a tough time because they're into someone who doesn't return the feelings.
This totally blows obviously, but sometimes you gotta realize that
they're just not into you.
And when they're not into you,
don't bother.
You can't force someone to like you and definitely not to love you.
And honestly, you shouldn't want to.
You want someone who thinks you are the best person they've ever met.
The someone who will bring you orange juice when you're sick
and not make fun of you for liking that stupid tv show. [alright, they'll tease a little, but just cuz they like having fun with you]
And if you happen to find this someone and it turns out they decide they're looking for a different someone you can do 1 of 2 things.
Be all upset and angry about it, slash their tires, spread rumors about their stamina and std records and hate them.
OR
Recognize that it just wasn't meant to be and keep looking.
This is hard to do. [mostly because #1 sounds so appealing]
Another thing to think about is that sometimes it's no one's fault.
Sometimes it's just not working.
Sometimes it's you.
Then again sometimes it's all they're fault and they really are a jerk.
And you know, it's ok to feel this way.
Especially if it makes it easier for you to get over them. [usually it does]
BUT make sure not to be a jerk to someone who doesn't deserve it.
One more thing.
If you keep running into the same problem with every person you date,
you should probably take a look at yourself,
because maybe it's you.
Just keepin it in perpective Line.
Got your back.

Happy to help,

Bee