Two Candy Canes Make a Heart

Oh,
hey there holiday season.
I see you're back again...
Weird how that happens.
Also weird how the holidays are always much nicer
when you have someone you love to share them with.
Yeah,
that's nice.
But I dunno,
isn't having a significant other for the holidays a little overrated?
At LEAST a little cliche...
Right?
Totally...
Who needs a boyfriend/girlfriend when there's mistletoe?
God's own invention to promote kissing various people!
Right?
Yeah...
Being in a relationship during the holidays is ACTUALLY a total disadvantage...
1)You have to buy someone else a present,
which will cause you a lot more grief than just getting a hat for your dad
and jewelry for your mom.
2)You have to make time for someone else,
when you've already got your own schedule to take care of.
3)You're gonna have to hang out with their family,
most likely..
4)What happens when you get into a terrible fight,
two days before Christmas,
and it doesn't get resolved?
Who's Christmas is ruined then?
Yours.
DOWNER.
So maybe you'll have someone to hold hands with,
or to make a snowman,
or to go out,
or laugh with,
or kiss,
or hug.
Oh...
Those things might be nice...
Whoa...
What?
What's happening to me Line?
Is there some possibility in the universe that I'm ACTUALLY prepared to commit to someone?
WHAAATT??
Me??
You're faithfully single Bachelorette?
Nah...
I'm only prepared to commit if the right guy comes along...

Relationships: For All The Right Reasons.

Okay.
So you want a boyfriend/girlfriend?
I'll help you do this,
but first I need to ask you a legit question...
Why?
Why do you want a significant other?
Is it so they can complete you?
So you can have someone to lean on?
So you can stop playing Frisbee all by yourself? [If this is your reason, get a dog.]
Seriously though,
you have to ask yourself why you think you need someone else?
You've gotta learn to be happy by yourself,
because if your happiness relies on someone else,
what happens when that someone is gone?
Nothing lasts forever.
You've gotta go into every relationship knowing that.
If you're considering becoming someone else's "significant other",
I hope it's for the right reasons.
Reasons like:
They care for you over everyone.
They have your best interest at heart.
They like that when you're driving together you sing like a tone deaf loser. [Okay, they may not exactly "like" this, but they can tolerate it and laugh with you about it]
They make you laugh.
They get you.
You WANT to, but don't NEED to.
Those are reasons for being in a relationship,
not just to have someone to hang out with when you're lonely.
Do this for me:
Go do something all by yourself,
once a week.
Pretty soon you'll be able to appreciate yourself.
Because if you never learn to love you,
how are others going to?
Just keeping it in perspective.
Happy to help.

Bee.