Confusion Answered.

Okay.
I know I've been completely infrequent with my posts,
and I apologize for that.
BUT
The reason for this is because
I've been out there learning and making mistakes,
in order to give you the feedback you like :]
I'm about to pour my heart out on this one,
so stay with me.
I'm no longer confused about how to act or react.
I have a solid answer.
Which is exactly what I wanted...
Now, was the substance of the answer I got
exactly what I wanted?
Well,
at first I didn't think it was.
At first,
I was kinda upset about it.
Upset that he didn't like me enough to become something more.
BUT
after thinking about it,
that what I always want.
I have never been the girl who wanted a boyfriend,
I've never wanted to be stuck with one person,
so why did I confuse myself this time?
Well,
to be honest
it's probably because I genuinely liked him.
But that's beyond the point.
I think the reason I was prepared to commit so quickly
was because all of my friends told me I was supposed to.
No really,
anyone that knows me,
knows I'm not the relationship girl.
I'm a flirt.
I like to have fun.
Commitment scares me.
I lost track of who I was for a few weeks.
There's the key words there:
"few weeks."
I had only known this guy for like 20 days.
That is an outrageous amount of time for me to:
meet boy.
fall for boy.
date boy.
want to COMMIT to boy.
20 days!
Wow. wow. wow.
That is just not like me at all.
And now I remember that.
Yeah,
it still hurts a little to know I won't see him again,
but most likely it's for the best.
Maybe in a few years
we'll both be the single ones in our groups of friends
and we'll meet again.
Maybe we'll be more grown up
and ready for relationships.
Maybe I'll never see him again...
But one thing is for sure,
I learned from it
and it was fun while it lasted,
because we were a pretty good match.
Keep your smile and your guard up line,
both will get you where you want to be.
Happy to help.
Bee <3

One Night Stands.

98 percent of the time that's all they are.
ONE.
NIGHT.
Ouch.
That hurts a lot doesn't it?
I know, it does.
Especially when you're the one hoping that maybe this means they like you as much as you like them.
They don't.
Especially if there's alcohol involved.
If they can't make a move when they're sober,
it's because they don't want the responsibility of actually making a relationship.
They're probably attracted to you,
but they don't genuinely care about you.
If they truly cared about you
they would make sure you knew it.
They'd have the guts to treat you well when they're sober in the daytime.
Let's be honest,
they're probably a really insecure person. [That's where the alcohol comes into play]
Alcohol is a big COP OUT btw.
It blows cuz you like them,
and thought that maybe they'd finally realize that you rock
and should be together...
But if they actually realized that,
you'd know it at 3:00 PM on any Wednesday,
under the influence of nothing.
When they hook up with you at night
and don't act the same in the morning,
it time to move on.
Get outta there,
and don't look back.
This is something you really have to be strong on.
Do NOT let it turn into a habit.
It was a mistake,
and it can always be that ONE mistake,
but if it happens again you can only blame yourself.
Don't let them fool you.
Don't be their booty call,
it'll only make you feel bad about yourself.
You deserve someone who will treat you well.
Don't worry,
most people have been here,
you're not alone.
Just recognize that you are better than this.
You don't want someone that insecure and immature anyway.
Lots of love to you Line,
just keepin' it in perspective.
As always, happy to help.
Bee