For This Week.

Hey Line,
this will be super short.
I just wanted to remind you to look on the bright side of things this week.
And always,
but really try and focus on that this week.
See how much of a difference it will make:]

Hang in there.
Happy to help.
Bee

One Night Stands.

98 percent of the time that's all they are.
ONE.
NIGHT.
Ouch.
That hurts a lot doesn't it?
I know, it does.
Especially when you're the one hoping that maybe this means they like you as much as you like them.
They don't.
Especially if there's alcohol involved.
If they can't make a move when they're sober,
it's because they don't want the responsibility of actually making a relationship.
They're probably attracted to you,
but they don't genuinely care about you.
If they truly cared about you
they would make sure you knew it.
They'd have the guts to treat you well when they're sober in the daytime.
Let's be honest,
they're probably a really insecure person. [That's where the alcohol comes into play]
Alcohol is a big COP OUT btw.
It blows cuz you like them,
and thought that maybe they'd finally realize that you rock
and should be together...
But if they actually realized that,
you'd know it at 3:00 PM on any Wednesday,
under the influence of nothing.
When they hook up with you at night
and don't act the same in the morning,
it time to move on.
Get outta there,
and don't look back.
This is something you really have to be strong on.
Do NOT let it turn into a habit.
It was a mistake,
and it can always be that ONE mistake,
but if it happens again you can only blame yourself.
Don't let them fool you.
Don't be their booty call,
it'll only make you feel bad about yourself.
You deserve someone who will treat you well.
Don't worry,
most people have been here,
you're not alone.
Just recognize that you are better than this.
You don't want someone that insecure and immature anyway.
Lots of love to you Line,
just keepin' it in perspective.
As always, happy to help.
Bee

Math Equations and Exes.

So...
The last post ended badly...
I ruptured my eardrum on the plane...
It hurt.
Real bad.
But anyway I'm okay now
and on medication and stuff.
Back to the relationship advice stuff.
Let's go over Ex advice,
since almost everyone has one.

First off:
If you and your significant other just split up, I'm sorry because it hurts.

Now:
I know it may be hard, but you have to cut off connection with them.
Yes, you can "still be friends", but not right now.
When you've just separated from someone,
maintaining contact will only make the situation worse for you both.
Don't drag it out.
Later on you can be friends,
right now you're exes.
Getting over someone you loved takes time.
There's an equation that will give you a rough estimate of how much time it will take you to get over them.
Basically it's like this:
X/2= :)

AKA The time you were dating them, divided by two, will give you the amount of time it will take you to be over them, at the greatest.

So say I date someone for 5 months, then we break up. It will take me 2.5 months AT MOST to be over them. Usually you're over them before that time.

BUT, the only way to get over them, is to not be around them or talk to them.
Your heart needs time to heal
and your brain needs to remember how to be without them again.
Erase them from your phone.
That way you're not tempted to call or text them.
Unless they did something terrible, erasing them from your Facebook is unnecessary because it can cause drama.
However if they cheated on you or did something bad,
erase away!
However,
You don't want to constantly look at their page,
so if you don't want to erase them,
then hide them from your news feed.
That way when they put up a picture with a new person,
you don't go stalk their page. [Note: Avoid looking at their page. Facebook is the NUMBER 1 cause of break-ups in America. It makes people jump to conclusions]
If they contact you and it was a mutual or a clean break-up,
You can politely say you both need space and time away from each other.
Tell them you will contact them when you're ready to be friends again.
If they contact you begging for you back after they cheated on you,
ignore them.
Block them.
Once a cheater,
always a cheater.
You gotta protect yourself line.
Keepin' it in perspective.
Happy to help:]
Bee

Relationships: For All The Right Reasons.

Okay.
So you want a boyfriend/girlfriend?
I'll help you do this,
but first I need to ask you a legit question...
Why?
Why do you want a significant other?
Is it so they can complete you?
So you can have someone to lean on?
So you can stop playing Frisbee all by yourself? [If this is your reason, get a dog.]
Seriously though,
you have to ask yourself why you think you need someone else?
You've gotta learn to be happy by yourself,
because if your happiness relies on someone else,
what happens when that someone is gone?
Nothing lasts forever.
You've gotta go into every relationship knowing that.
If you're considering becoming someone else's "significant other",
I hope it's for the right reasons.
Reasons like:
They care for you over everyone.
They have your best interest at heart.
They like that when you're driving together you sing like a tone deaf loser. [Okay, they may not exactly "like" this, but they can tolerate it and laugh with you about it]
They make you laugh.
They get you.
You WANT to, but don't NEED to.
Those are reasons for being in a relationship,
not just to have someone to hang out with when you're lonely.
Do this for me:
Go do something all by yourself,
once a week.
Pretty soon you'll be able to appreciate yourself.
Because if you never learn to love you,
how are others going to?
Just keeping it in perspective.
Happy to help.

Bee.

Love is a Dangerous Thing.

Just finished my biology final.
Now I literally never have to take a science again in my entire college life.
Assuming I didn't fail the class.
Pretty stoked about that:]
I didn't want to take this class,
but I figured it's better to just
get it done and
do what you gotta do.
No matter if it's fun or not,
because trust me,
a 10 week course compacted into 4 weeks is really not fun.
But that's just the way things are.
Sometimes you have to just close your eyes
and hold your breath,
and trust that you're gonna get through something.
Like breakups.
They really
really
really
hurt.
Seriously,
it's like your world just crashed down
when you break up with someone who you loved,
or thought you loved
or thought you'd be with forever,
or all three.
People dying from foreign diseases seem to have it easier than you
because you're dying of a broken heart.
Unless you're 80 years old and had been with your love all your life,
this probably isn't the case.
It's ok to feel like it is,
at least for a while.
You have to let yourself be upset,
for a while.
Everything must run it's course.
Just know that it will get better,
it always does,
even if it feels like your heart is smashed.
And if you feel that way,
I am sorry for you
because that really is the worst feeling.
Love is a dangerous thing,
because you can never be entirely stable with it.
There's always the risk of getting hurt.
But when you're not hurt,
isn't it the best thing in the world?
You will love again Line,
just let it heal.
And know that from every heart break,
you're closer to finding the one who won't hurt you.
Just keeping it in perspective.
Happy to help:]
Bee.

Try Harder

Ugh for realz?
Lesson for boy interested in girl:
Try.
Harder.
Or she'll peace out and
move to the next.
The line's long.
When it's your turn you better be ready.
That's all.
~Bee

Ode to The Haters.

You're okay girl,
don't let them hurt you so.
Ignore all of their hate,
those crushing blows.
They know that you're too strong,
and they wish they were.
Hearts green with envy,
makes that jealousy stir.
Keep your head up girl,
let those haters trip.
Ignore their ugly,
it'll make you sick.
You know you've got class,
and they all just stare.
Keep looking up fools,
you can kiss my Airs.





xoxo
~Bee