Two Candy Canes Make a Heart

Oh,
hey there holiday season.
I see you're back again...
Weird how that happens.
Also weird how the holidays are always much nicer
when you have someone you love to share them with.
Yeah,
that's nice.
But I dunno,
isn't having a significant other for the holidays a little overrated?
At LEAST a little cliche...
Right?
Totally...
Who needs a boyfriend/girlfriend when there's mistletoe?
God's own invention to promote kissing various people!
Right?
Yeah...
Being in a relationship during the holidays is ACTUALLY a total disadvantage...
1)You have to buy someone else a present,
which will cause you a lot more grief than just getting a hat for your dad
and jewelry for your mom.
2)You have to make time for someone else,
when you've already got your own schedule to take care of.
3)You're gonna have to hang out with their family,
most likely..
4)What happens when you get into a terrible fight,
two days before Christmas,
and it doesn't get resolved?
Who's Christmas is ruined then?
Yours.
DOWNER.
So maybe you'll have someone to hold hands with,
or to make a snowman,
or to go out,
or laugh with,
or kiss,
or hug.
Oh...
Those things might be nice...
Whoa...
What?
What's happening to me Line?
Is there some possibility in the universe that I'm ACTUALLY prepared to commit to someone?
WHAAATT??
Me??
You're faithfully single Bachelorette?
Nah...
I'm only prepared to commit if the right guy comes along...

Apologies 101

Alright...
So never be a doormat,
that's obvious...
That being said,
don't be a jerk.
Turns out,
sometimes we are jerks.
And we know it.
You know it.
Yeah you do.
Either you get really stressed and snap,
or you're just REALLY REALLY sick of someone.
It just happens.
You yell at them,
or say something so horribly harsh because they aren't grasping that you just want to be left alone.
And then you see it.
The ABSOLUTE hurt that you've caused them.
That was you.
All you.
So it makes sense that the only person who can make it better,
is you.
This is tricky because in some situations with some people,
you need to just let it be for a little while,
then apologize.
Others want an immediate apology.
The problem with an immediate apology is that
A) it's probably not sincere because you're most likely still feeling anger.
B) If you're still angry from the original argument, it's only going to keep bothering you.
However,
if you wait too long,
they may just forget you,
cut you out,
and no longer give a shit about what you have to say.
Pride does bad things for relationships.
So if you did something wrong,
or said something harsh,
give it a day.
Go calm down and brush it off.
Then realize you have to own up to what may have just been your own stress level overflowing,
and they were the unfortunate target.
(They were most likely the target because you feel comfortable enough around them to lose your composure, and know they'll still love/care about you)
So take it easy and step back.
Let the situation die down,
but know you gotta apologize.
And also know that you have to mean your apology.
Everyone can recognize a fake one.
Good luck line.
Keep it in perspective and watch yo temper;)
Happy to help,
Bee.

Love somebody. Or yourself.

I apologize for my absence.
School and work take most of my time...
so does living.
BUT
the good thing about that,
is that now I have plenty to say:]
Let's see.
I think we should talk about dating...
No objections?
Okay good [haha you can't object even if you want to]
Dating is fun.
No really,
hear me out.
A lot of people hate it because it's awkward
and new
and such,
but really,
it's just meeting new people
with the potential of finding love!
Isn't that exciting!?
I know you think that's exciting.
So single is okay.
Yeah?
Yeah!!
You can flirt with whoever you want,
go wherever you want,
no restrictions.
This is your ticket to freedom and happiness!
And through that you'll find MORE happiness when you meet your love!
But it takes time,
we know this.
And being okay with being you is most important. [again, we know this]
Another thing,
yes,
you will date losers.
There's a lot of them out there,
and that's why we date,
to find the best non-loser available.
So don't get discouraged.
Until then,
date around.
Enjoy it.
You only get to do it for so long.
Marriage is forever [or should be thought as such]
so have fun not being married,
and don't forget to love yourself.
Remember,
if you can't love yourself,
how will anyone else?
Right?
;)
Keep in it in perspective line.
Got your back.
<3 Bee.

He Loves Me, She Loves Me Not.

Well.

Well, well, well.

I've got quite a bit to say,

but for once I'm not quite sure where to start.

So i'll get straight to the point.

BOYS: If you like a girl,

and want her to be your girlfriend eventually,

you better let her know you like her.

And you better show it.

GIRLS: If you like a boy and want to be his girlfriend,

YOU better act like it, but be a little more reserved until you're positive he feels the same way.

Don't doodle your names in hearts on your notebook.

He'll pull the crazy card on you then.

Do these statements seem unfair and sexist?

Yep.

But am I right?

Yep.

Dudes don't want a crazy who they don't have to fight a little for.

Girls don't like passive jerks, OR overly clingy guys.

That's just life,

minus the exceptions.

So today,

BOYS if you like her,

MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS BEFORE SHE MOVES ON.

Yes, I am talking to you.

and GIRLS if you like him,

don't stress.

If the feeling is mutual he will make it happen.

That's all.

Get to gettin'.

Love you all.

Bee.

For This Week.

Hey Line,
this will be super short.
I just wanted to remind you to look on the bright side of things this week.
And always,
but really try and focus on that this week.
See how much of a difference it will make:]

Hang in there.
Happy to help.
Bee

One Night Stands.

98 percent of the time that's all they are.
ONE.
NIGHT.
Ouch.
That hurts a lot doesn't it?
I know, it does.
Especially when you're the one hoping that maybe this means they like you as much as you like them.
They don't.
Especially if there's alcohol involved.
If they can't make a move when they're sober,
it's because they don't want the responsibility of actually making a relationship.
They're probably attracted to you,
but they don't genuinely care about you.
If they truly cared about you
they would make sure you knew it.
They'd have the guts to treat you well when they're sober in the daytime.
Let's be honest,
they're probably a really insecure person. [That's where the alcohol comes into play]
Alcohol is a big COP OUT btw.
It blows cuz you like them,
and thought that maybe they'd finally realize that you rock
and should be together...
But if they actually realized that,
you'd know it at 3:00 PM on any Wednesday,
under the influence of nothing.
When they hook up with you at night
and don't act the same in the morning,
it time to move on.
Get outta there,
and don't look back.
This is something you really have to be strong on.
Do NOT let it turn into a habit.
It was a mistake,
and it can always be that ONE mistake,
but if it happens again you can only blame yourself.
Don't let them fool you.
Don't be their booty call,
it'll only make you feel bad about yourself.
You deserve someone who will treat you well.
Don't worry,
most people have been here,
you're not alone.
Just recognize that you are better than this.
You don't want someone that insecure and immature anyway.
Lots of love to you Line,
just keepin' it in perspective.
As always, happy to help.
Bee

Math Equations and Exes.

So...
The last post ended badly...
I ruptured my eardrum on the plane...
It hurt.
Real bad.
But anyway I'm okay now
and on medication and stuff.
Back to the relationship advice stuff.
Let's go over Ex advice,
since almost everyone has one.

First off:
If you and your significant other just split up, I'm sorry because it hurts.

Now:
I know it may be hard, but you have to cut off connection with them.
Yes, you can "still be friends", but not right now.
When you've just separated from someone,
maintaining contact will only make the situation worse for you both.
Don't drag it out.
Later on you can be friends,
right now you're exes.
Getting over someone you loved takes time.
There's an equation that will give you a rough estimate of how much time it will take you to get over them.
Basically it's like this:
X/2= :)

AKA The time you were dating them, divided by two, will give you the amount of time it will take you to be over them, at the greatest.

So say I date someone for 5 months, then we break up. It will take me 2.5 months AT MOST to be over them. Usually you're over them before that time.

BUT, the only way to get over them, is to not be around them or talk to them.
Your heart needs time to heal
and your brain needs to remember how to be without them again.
Erase them from your phone.
That way you're not tempted to call or text them.
Unless they did something terrible, erasing them from your Facebook is unnecessary because it can cause drama.
However if they cheated on you or did something bad,
erase away!
However,
You don't want to constantly look at their page,
so if you don't want to erase them,
then hide them from your news feed.
That way when they put up a picture with a new person,
you don't go stalk their page. [Note: Avoid looking at their page. Facebook is the NUMBER 1 cause of break-ups in America. It makes people jump to conclusions]
If they contact you and it was a mutual or a clean break-up,
You can politely say you both need space and time away from each other.
Tell them you will contact them when you're ready to be friends again.
If they contact you begging for you back after they cheated on you,
ignore them.
Block them.
Once a cheater,
always a cheater.
You gotta protect yourself line.
Keepin' it in perspective.
Happy to help:]
Bee